Posts by Special K

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Should The Watchtower Be Blamed For Everything Bad Happening In Your Life??

by minimus in

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at times, i read some watctower apologists complain here that everyone blames the watchtower society for everything or anything negative in their lives.

sometimes, because of who is expressing this view, a few might jump on the bandwagon and attack the poster.

but i wonder whether or not we at times need to deal with our own negatives about ourselves.

Special K

Minimus

Do I feel that I blame the WTS for everything bad in my life.

NO.

But do i blame them for alot of things in my life before I got out of it

YES.

I blame them for giving my parents a narrow minded view of people.

I blame them for taking away their freedom of choice and replacing it with a FEAR of God's vengance.

I blame them for thinking they have all the answers to world and personal problems.

And I blame them because . all that.. was then transferred over into ME! as a baby and then as a young child and then as an adolescent and then as a young person and then for part of my adult life.

I blame them for closed doors that I couldn't look into and make my own decisions on because as J.W.'s you are not given much opportunity to make decisions. without runing to an elder or a publication.

I blame them, because the love of my parents was CONDITIONAL upon my remaining a J.W.

I blame them for spending so much of my life making JUDGEMENTS on people.

No I don't blame them for everything wrong in my life...if I choose not to wear a seatbelt in my car and have an accident.. I will not blame them.

You seem to start alot of topic threads minimus.. Are you a therapist by any chance..and are helping us all explore our recovery through this. (Not asked in a bad way.. I was just looking over all your topic postings that's all.. and they all seem like .. searching our inner turmoils.. and bringing them out to the surface to look at. .. and by the way.. that is not a bad thing.

It would be interesting to start a post on "Are there things about you in your life that you are thankful for because of previously being a Jehovah's Witness...".and see how the comments stack up.

I think you would get lots on that thread too.. But I think the cons for being a J.W. would outweight the pros.

Special K.

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Sometimes, it just ain't any fun...

by safe4kids in

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i took my kids on a vacation to disney world...their dream vacation, actually, although it didn't turn out that way.

midway through we get a call that their grandmother (the real one, who was never a dub and who hasn't ever turned her back on the kids or on me even thru my divorce from her son, unlike my own jw mother) is in serious condition at the hospital.

we spent one of our 'vacation' days sitting in a hospital icu waiting room, timing our 15 minute visits so that we could see her, and throughout it all the kids were troopers.

Special K

I am sorry to hear all this Dana,

My kids and I had to go through the death of a dear person two years ago. He was such a great serogate grandfather to my kids.

We saw him everyday while he was in the hospital dying of cancer.

And if we didn't come him he'd call and talk to each one of us.

It was painful for all of us, but as my youngest who is now 8 looks back..he was glad he was there to watch who he considered his grandfather live until he died. Although, very young it was important to him to be with his grandfather through it all.

Each child is different, and grieve in their own way.

Big hugs to all of you

Special K

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IS THIS A BELIEVABLE COINCIDENCE?

by jst2laws in

i had a really unique experience today that i want to share but will have to give you a little of my background first.

i hope you find it interesting.. .

teenage years.

Special K

A great story.. was glad you posted it.

Special K

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Jehovah's Witnesses asking woman to pay legal costs in sexual abuse lawsuit

by ignored_one in

http://canadaeast.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?aid=/20030723/cpn/20587021&cachetime=15 .

jehovah's witnesses asking woman to pay legal costs in sexual abuse lawsuit.

toronto (cp) - a woman who received $5,000 in damages after accusing the canadian wing of the jehovah's witnesses of negligence over their handling of allegations of sexual abuse is being asked to pay for part of the religious group's legal costs in the case.

Special K

Well, I am a Canadian sitting here in Eastern Canada wondering what I have to say after reading 6 pages of posts on all of this.

Thank you... Vicki and family for having the courage to come forward and bring your case before the courts.

To read it and know that thousands and thousands of others have read about it, helps give me some kind of comfort in knowing that probably SOMEONE has read .. and have now left the J.W. organization.

You have helped break the way, for other violated J.W.s, to also come forward.

Thanks so much for all that you have done and endured.

I continue to watch with interest how this last issues about the costs pans out...

Sincerely

Special K

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New Article on California Abuse Cases

by blondie in

http://www.napanews.com/templates/index.cfm?template=story_full&id=ff8a2203-2fed-4981-914a-34c9828cf668

napanews.com woman speaks about abuse at jehovah witness lawsuit meetingfriday, august 1, 2003. .

by marsha dorgan.

Special K

Blondie

Thanks for the update in postings on this case.. I am following it all in detail as it becomes available.

It turns my stomach, to know there is sooooo many children being abused in this organization and that The WTS... is protecting it's own ass...and not the kids.

Special K

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Parents allowed girl to stay with man who molested her

by StinkyPantz in

police: parents allowed girl to stay with man who molested her .

associated press

hopewell, pa. - a couple allowed a relative who had been convicted of molesting their 10-year-old daughter to babysit the girl, police said.

Special K

It is true that maybe the father of this child is truly ... DUMB!!!!

Thank god, child services and the Police, were SMARTER..and know what is in the best interest of the child...

Because the PARENTS SURE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WAS IN THE CHILDS BEST INTERESTS...

Special K

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The SilentLambs Strike Back - California Victims Sue Watchtower Society!!!

by UnDisfellowshipped in

jehovah's witnesses: http://www.watchtower.org.

silentlambs web site: http://www.silentlambs.org.

jehovah's witnesses: http://www.watchtower.org.

Special K

Thanks for the posts from the newspapers.

This stuff is long, long overdue and I hope it continues... so the general public can see what is going on in this religion..

Special K

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Witness Paedophile Gets 12 years

by Englishman in

from yesterdays richmond and twickenham times:jehovahs witness jailed for rape.

by emily manson.

a 53-year-old jehovahs witness has been sentenced to 12 years imprisonment at isleworth crown court this week, after being convicted of six counts of rape and one of indecent assault on a young girl in hanworth.. eric james richardson, from nottingham, was convicted and sentenced yesterday, after the court found him guilty of raping the girl over a period of three years at an address in hanworth.. the rapes occurred between 1988 and 1991 but the met's child protection team only began investigating the case when the victim approached police in june 2002.. the victim of the allegations, who is now 26, had become concerned that richardson might offend again, and had decided it was time for her to speak up.. richardson, a jehovah's witness, had gained the trust of the victim through his attendance at a jehovah's witness church.

Special K

Thanks for posting that about this creep who preys on the innocent.

That's another strike for the children...

If J.W. parents would only open their eyes to what is lurking among them, hopefully some will read these newpaper articles and it will knock the wind out of them so to speak.. and they will want to get out of that crazy religion that harbours these wicked type of persons.. and then shelters them and no the children and their families.

Special K

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Update on study with Elder....

by shotgun in

i took the advice of the forum and informed him i wouldlike to study the bible.

he arrived case in hand and pulled out the draw close to jehovah publication.. i said i thought we were going to study the bible...he then said well this is a bible publication...i said has not past publications contained errors and changes in teachings while the bible remains true.

he said yesssss.......do you have something inparticular you want to look at in the bible.....i said i thought we could start in matthew and work our way through.

Special K

Hey Shotgun,

My concerns too... are if there are two elders who come to visit you..

Each one will be trying to impress the other .. in their own way.. and try to put the squeeze on you.

If there are two and you don't want to be squeezed in this way you may have to use

Theocratic Warfare...if they start to accuse you need to Deny..(if your not ready to be disfellowshipped yet)

I have doubts, I have doubts, I have doubts.

I dont' recall that....

I have no memory of that...

It just doesn't seem familiar to me....

You just might want to save those focused skills (as you have definitely shown when conversing with the one elder).. for another round.. when you have only one elder to talk to..

They send two .. so they can give equal witness to your attitude and compliance.

Shields UP!!!!

Special K

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Well It's time for me to leave.

by outoftheorg in

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friends

at least i am giving it a try.. i have had some minor surgery.

nothing to worry about, but it put me out of physical action for the last two weeks.

this gave me lots of time to think and browse this forum.

Special K

Take care ((((out of the organization)))..

Life is to live... enjoy and draw close to the ones who love you.

Special K